Mar 09, 2017 clicking with compassion
I have developed my own theory. It was cultivated when our nanny video went viral and we were flooded with thousands of comments and direct messages. My theory is negativity needs an audience in order to exist. Kindheartedness never does.
I have yet to receive one direct or personal message that is rude, negative, or offering criticism in any way. NOT ONE. Out of literally thousands. Every single personal message is full of positive belief in our idea and abilities. Telling us how much we have opened their minds, how they have a new vision of possibilities and dreams, thanking us for inspiring them, sending us prayers of safety and success.
Now here is the flip side. Some people who choose to publicly comment on our video have a lot of criticism or so called “concerns”. I put the word in quotes because interestingly not one person who has uneasiness about our parenting style, the nanny, or whatever else sent me a personal message to address and attempt to resolve the worry.
Negative thoughts and comments need to be seen/heard to be validated by the writer. Kindness and love never does. The most heartfelt and loving thoughts were never published publicly. I guess that’s why it’s called random acts of kindness. Here is a very small sampling of your love:
“This journey is something so incredibly soul ripening and to see that people are choosing to have their little ones learn with them, it gives me hope for our future generations.”
“The world needs your kids, heck, I think I need your family.”
“To be honest today I don’t know what love is, or what a marriage should look like because in my home it’s filled with rage, hatred, sadness, and heartache. When I watched your family’s videos I could feel the warmth and love you have for your children and each other. It is refreshing and gives hope that families can be happy.”
“I’m happy there is an initiative like this. Open up your wings and conquer who you are and what you’re all about”
“As parents you are both inspirations, the way you seem as humans, spouses, parents, and friends is undoubtedly magnificent!”
“I believe in you. This online community believes in you. And without a doubt, I know God does too.”
Public outlook doesn’t really affect me because I am not the opinion of someone who has never met my kids or me. I don’t feel displaced with my life, but perfectly placed in the world. It’s a world that I refuse to feel discouraged over because I have now met so many loving humans from all over the world. Let’s click with compassion and not consume the trash. It’s a fine line “between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention” Monica Lewinsky: Ted Talk
So, my newest theory is no matter what the problem is love is always the answer…now what’s your problem?