clicking with compassion

I have developed my own theory. It was cultivated when our nanny video went viral and we were flooded with thousands of comments and direct messages. My theory is negativity needs an audience in order to exist. Kindheartedness never does.

I have yet to receive one direct or personal message that is rude, negative, or offering criticism in any way. NOT ONE. Out of literally thousands. Every single personal message is full of positive belief in our idea and abilities. Telling us how much we have opened their minds, how they have a new vision of possibilities and dreams, thanking us for inspiring them, sending us prayers of safety and success.

Now here is the flip side. Some people who choose to publicly comment on our video have a lot of criticism or so called “concerns”. I put the word in quotes because interestingly not one person who has uneasiness about our parenting style, the nanny, or whatever else sent me a personal message to address and attempt to resolve the worry.

Negative thoughts and comments need to be seen/heard to be validated by the writer. Kindness and love never does. The most heartfelt and loving thoughts were never published publicly. I guess that’s why it’s called random acts of kindness. Here is a very small sampling of your love:

“This journey is something so incredibly soul ripening and to see that people are choosing to have their little ones learn with them, it gives me hope for our future generations.”

“The world needs your kids, heck, I think I need your family.”

“To be honest today I don’t know what love is, or what a marriage should look like because in my home it’s filled with rage, hatred, sadness, and heartache. When I watched your family’s videos I could feel the warmth and love you have for your children and each other. It is refreshing and gives hope that families can be happy.”

“I’m happy there is an initiative like this. Open up your wings and conquer who you are and what you’re all about”

“As parents you are both inspirations, the way you seem as humans, spouses, parents, and friends is undoubtedly magnificent!”

“I believe in you. This online community believes in you. And without a doubt, I know God does too.”

Public outlook doesn’t really affect me because I am not the opinion of someone who has never met my kids or me. I don’t feel displaced with my life, but perfectly placed in the world. It’s a world that I refuse to feel discouraged over because I have now met so many loving humans from all over the world. Let’s click with compassion and not consume the trash. It’s a fine line “between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention” Monica Lewinsky: Ted Talk

So, my newest theory is no matter what the problem is love is always the answer…now what’s your problem?

 

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13 Comments
  • Sandie Tillotson
    Posted at 17:22h, 09 March Reply

    Yes – love is the answer! Love you guys!!

  • T Page
    Posted at 17:27h, 09 March Reply

    As ideas, thoughts, and inclination flit though my mind~ I Listen. And if I’m blessed to have a “sparkle or animated rustling” in my heart… I pay attention to it. Devine conformation that I am right on track. “All we need is Love” If people feel the need to give me feed back as to my choices; on MY journey ~ I just hold space for them.
    Fear or Love.
    A course in Miracles teaches us the two greatest teachers.
    With Love~
    T

  • Suzanne Cunningham
    Posted at 17:29h, 09 March Reply

    Much love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • Kathryn Buller
    Posted at 17:41h, 09 March Reply

    Don’t worry, be happy.

  • Laurie Szentirmai
    Posted at 17:57h, 09 March Reply

    I just love your post. Funny how following someone else’s life can make you all warm and fuzzy inside. I just love what your family has decided to do and what a wealth of learning for your children.

  • Debra olson
    Posted at 18:14h, 09 March Reply

    I forget sometimes that a blog has such an extraordinary reach and I am touched by the messages of love. I am especially moved by the messages of despair because people, no matter where we are, need a lifeline now and then. I am proud of you, Derek and those “melt my heart” boys for whatever this is for whoever needs it. It has so many possibilities and I can’t wait to see, hear and experience some of them.

  • Becka
    Posted at 18:54h, 09 March Reply

    I love the the way the Tillotson family shows the world how to live the juicy life! When I first went to Pirate’s Cove, I was in awe of how in touch with their “inner child” everyone is. It’s inspiring that WHOLE FAMILY lives that way all the time, not just on occasion! It’s only natural that you and Derek would take your parenting skills to the next level. I love you peeps. Have fun stormin’ the castle!

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 18:57h, 09 March Reply

    I do agree with Ted

  • Valesca Athayde Paradela
    Posted at 18:58h, 09 March Reply

    I do agree with TED

  • Vanessa Valley
    Posted at 19:41h, 09 March Reply

    I think you make an excellent point! It’s not something everyone thinks about but once said, it seems obvious. Negativity needs to be surrounded by itself. It eats away at energy rather then sharing it, that’s how I see it. I remember not making friends in college because the way students bonded was by complaining about anything they could think of and I refused to do that.
    My problem at the moment? Having patience. I struggle with it and berate myself for struggling with it, but I do the best when I choose self love and forgiveness and start over again in that moment without fear of judgment from myself. I think we are all our own harshest judges.

  • Lourdes
    Posted at 01:14h, 10 March Reply

    Love it. Keep sharing your thoughts, pics, videos and let us grow with your bubbly, quirky and adorable family!

  • KC
    Posted at 15:05h, 20 March Reply

    Hello!
    I was one that of those who posted a concern. I have two small children of my own and that’s all that had time for. ?
    Again, my concern: When traveling with a nanny you will need to make sure that you follow all the laws of employment for each country that you travel through, as she will actually be _working in those countries_. And some will actually even require work visas. ? Alternatively, not something that I recommend, you will need to be vague at each border regarding her relationship to your family.
    I’m sure that you’ve addressed this already as you both seem very organized in your approach to your travels. I’m looking forward to following your adventures.

    With love from London

    • Kenzie Tillotson
      Posted at 16:21h, 20 March Reply

      Thank you for your comment! We are aware that each country has its own laws that we need to follow. We have a great lawyer who is helping us navigate everything so that it is all done legally and smoothly 🙂

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