the art of letting go

I have interviewed close to 50 people in the past two weeks. People from all across the globe! I am gearing up for more interviews and starting some round 2 interviews. I thought you might be curious to know a few questions we ask during the interviews. To give you insight and to let yourself answer the questions we may not get to ask you ourselves. So, here are 3 examples.

What is your biggest fear in taking this position?
Name two of the toughest decisions that you have had to make in your work/personal life and what the result was?
Why should I not hire you?
I have started to box up our home. Taking our lives down from the shelves in preparation for putting the “for sale” sign up.

What will I think on my last day here and my first day gone?

It is such an easier choice to stay.

I am learning about the art of letting go.

Letting go of the material, the bits and pieces.The dining table that regularly held us at meal times. A nursery that each of my kids slept in as babies-those long nights staring out that bedroom window- mother and child silhouetted there in the dark. So that I can learn to find our comfort wherever we are together.

Sometimes life isn’t about becoming something or someone. It’s about unbecoming the you that came about from experiences that shaped you in the wrong ways. The art of letting go of all the things you don’t want to be.

I want to let go of…

my ideas relating to what my culture says is the mainstream family

Fear

Ownership of things and gain an ownership of self

Doubt

materialism

I want to learn how to live life in the raw, so that I can grow wings and let the wind cultivate me into a worthy being.

20 Comments
  • Martha Trimble
    Posted at 15:43h, 05 February Reply

    It’s bittersweet. Sometimes we have to let go of the hardest things in life to get to where we’re supposed to be! Wishing you my best!

  • Krista Nolte
    Posted at 15:53h, 05 February Reply

    Letting go is hard but rewarding in the end! You to discover places without the worry of what’s going on back home, why? Because you have everything you need right with you! I understand being sentimental with things like your dining room table because for me it is anything that belonged to my dad! Our society has be come so materialistic and dependent on our “stuff” and it’s refreshing to see a family do what you are doing! Keep up the good work!

  • Carmella Adell Camacho
    Posted at 16:13h, 05 February Reply

    I’ve often thought it would be easier to how someone to help me clean out/minimize my material possessions. On the other hand experiencing and observing the emotions of attachment is it’s own gift.

  • Sofie Leemans
    Posted at 16:22h, 05 February Reply

    You should listen to a great singer who has an album called ‘the noble art of letting go’. Rebekka Kraijord. I love her songs and lyrics! And it fits quite well here I would say… 😉

    Still secretly hoping you guys will get to see my application although I realize the chances are quite low. 🙂 I’ll think about the questions anyway… You never know! And actually they help with accepting I will need another challenge… 🙂

    Good luck with it!

  • Melanie Richards
    Posted at 16:47h, 05 February Reply

    This is such a strong read. Letting go can be so difficult, but in the end, one never wants to stay in their comfort zone. I hope you find so much growth and love in the journey ahead. The house might nit be there forever, but the memories will sustain! 🙂

    Love and hope onwards!
    “Liefde” Is love in Afrikaans. ❤
    Mel

  • kimberly verbeek
    Posted at 17:07h, 05 February Reply

    I can see how letting go of your material things can be hard when there is meaning behind them. Like you said a dining table where you always are. Now you get to start a new adventure with your family and create new memories. You get to create not with material things but with memories and adventures you will do together.
    I still hope there’s a small chance you call me for a interview but if not I hope you have a adventure of a lifetime.

  • Susan Haggerty
    Posted at 17:11h, 05 February Reply

    The art of letting go is something that took me more than 50 years to discover. When my husband left me with six children, ranging in age from 5 months to 14 yrs., I struggled for years eventually losing my house and years of “stuff”. My youngest is now 24. I have 10 grandchildren (one of whom applied for your position), and 2 great-grandchildren and I’m trying to show them how easy it becomes to let go of “things”. I’m so in awe of your family and the amazing adventure you are about to embark on. Stay true to yourselves and each other. Much love to all of you.

  • Karen Shelton
    Posted at 17:50h, 05 February Reply

    One of the hardest, yet most rewarding things I have ever done was let go of things. It’s truly a challenge in the moment, but the rewards are so worth it! So happy for you guys! I know you’ll be able to grow so much as a family from this.

  • Lourdes
    Posted at 18:09h, 05 February Reply

    Hello Five Take Flight!!

    I love watching your live posts. They show you as you are-real. Great entry, I enjoy reading them. Thank you for gifting in our name, it’s a kind gesture that gives much more than words. Good luck on our last few weeks. Tough last question–why not hire me?? Cause I may enjoy myself more than all of you!!!
    Keep smiling..keep blogging..vlogging and making chances in this great world of ours!!
    Much love,

    Lourdes Conte-Oro
    🙂

  • Megan Schmidt
    Posted at 18:21h, 05 February Reply

    The art of letting go is an art form we all need to practice. I think one of the reasons the world has fallen in Love with Five Take Flight is because you guys are the world. You are going about your lives experiencing things many of us experience or dreaming of things many of us dream. But most of all you are reminding us to get out there and have those experiences and realize those dreams. I respect you for openly telling the world about your process of letting go of your babies’ nursery and your own counterproductive emotions like fear and self doubt. Rock on and I’m praying for you all in your nanny selection and your adventures together.

  • Stephanie Leigh Maratea
    Posted at 18:26h, 05 February Reply

    Love. I agree with each word and sentiment. I just watched the documentary called MINIMALISM & read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie Kobdo. I temporarily moved in with my sister, her husband, and their 3 young children (your kids ages approximately)… I had to rid of 80% of my belongings for the next chapter in my life and it instantly made me feel lighter, happier, more hopeful, fearLESS, and excited. We so easily focus on all of the wrong things that begin to take away from personal relationships, experiences, and knowing what it’s like to have a clutter-free mind! If you haven’t read that book or watched that documentary on Facebook, it’s highly recommended! All positive vibes to you all during each process along the way; it’ll be worth it in the end.

  • Shannon Hunter
    Posted at 20:45h, 05 February Reply

    I am so curious on how y’all are planning to pack for this Magnificent life event!
    I’m avaid traveler and always trying to pair down and get the most out of space as well as multi functioning clothing accessories. I look forward to pictures. This is going to be one splendid sojourn! Happy travels Tillotson Family ?⛴??

  • Shannon Hunter
    Posted at 20:47h, 05 February Reply

    I am so curious on how y’all are planning to pack for this Magnificent life event!
    I’m traveler and always trying pair down and get the most out of space as well as multi functioning Everything. I look forward to pictures. ? This is going to be one splendid sojourn! Happy travels Tillotson Family ?⛴??

    • m'kenzie tillotson
      Posted at 21:39h, 05 February Reply

      Oh I will do a post about this…because I am a heavy packer! So, I am currently getting together multifunctional pieces for the trip, because we are going to be packing very light, which I will share with everyone

      • Heather Graziano
        Posted at 01:27h, 06 February Reply

        I am looking forward to this post! I’ve always wanted to do an extended trip with just a carry on…too advantageous?!

        I hear lululemon has some great travel pieces 😉

  • Debbie Nanney
    Posted at 23:50h, 05 February Reply

    As a cancer survivor, I always lived by the Motto “Baby Steps.” From the movie, “What About Bob?” So funny! Take it one step at a time. Make a plan and work your plan. On days you are feeling defeated, keep saying, “I can do this,I think I can, and just keep swimming! You know what happens when you get rid of your baby things????

  • Meghan Marie
    Posted at 02:05h, 07 February Reply

    Oof, I so feel what you are writing about here!

    And it is already such a pleasure and a privilege to be following you as you move through this journey. Thank you for sharing some of your innermost feelings, as well as your adventures, with the world! ???

  • Bobbie Verdegaal
    Posted at 04:45h, 10 February Reply

    What stood out to me the most was the phrase you used about letting go of “ownership of things and gain an ownership of self”. I think there is so much value in that. You can’t root your happiness in “things” and “stuff”, because you may not always have those material possessions with you. To hitch your feelings of peace and contentment to self is a much safer bet…you always have yourself with you, no matter where you go.

  • Zachariah Handran
    Posted at 21:13h, 12 February Reply

    I have no fear with the needs of this position.

    The first one that comes to mind was at the colorado mountain ranch back in 2011. I had to choose either adding another camp to my applying processes or just keep going with the first one that contacted me. I choose to focus on the one because they have what I was looking for. A real summer camp experience with rich history and heart. It was a gamble to put all my chips into one place that had hundreds of applicants but by the grace of God, I made it. Once there I started as the drama instructor. Originally I was only going to be a group counselor. The camp own saw something in me that I did not. I brought the activate back to life. I made my own curriculum. With hard work and all my heart, it quickly became one of the most popular activities at camp. All in all, I had made the right choose then.

    My second toughest decisions were to go get help for myself. For my whole life, I struggled with a health problem I could not understand. To the point that I could not even explain it. But in 2015 I finally made the decision to try. When I went to the doctor I thought they would basically pat me on the head and send me home. Instead, I got help and feel better than ever. For so long I had not reached out for help because I believed it was nothing real and I would be laughed at. To then actually get the help I was looking for is such a great blessing.

    I would not make a good hire because I can get quite excessive in trying to make sure I do the perfectly at times. On occasion, I may even apologize for things that are not my fault.

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    Posted at 15:27h, 12 May Reply

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